Dear Amy: My husband, children, and I live in a different state than most of my family.

We are planning a trip to the state of my family and would like to invite my parents and grandmother to rent a cabin for a few nights.

I don’t see my grandmother often because she isn’t enough to travel far.

I am worried about the remaining time, so I would like to enjoy a wonderful and relaxing trip together.

I want to make happy memories with them, my parents and my children. My grandmother gets along well and often spends time together. Both are widowed, but one of them remarried about a year ago.

Amy, this guy is rude and exaggerated, and everyone feels uncomfortable.

We all keep ourselves and respect when we are around him, but my parents and other grandmothers are not fans of this guy.

I’m worried that spending weekends with him would be too much for everyone.

His presence could turn this relaxing time with my family into a weekend that revolves around his lectures, narcissistic personality, and drama.

Is it selfish to me that I want to spend this precious time only with those who bring happiness? Is it wrong for me to invite only my grandmother and not her new spouse to look down on?

How can I extend this exclusive invitation? Or is there a polite and cautious way to ask him not to make this trip uncomfortable?