Dear Abbey: I’m a senior in high school. I’m from a family that is financially stable but can’t travel often due to time and money constraints. We usually travel only once a year in the summer, but in most cases we cannot travel far or stay long.

For the past three years, vacation plans have been put on hold due to pandemics and other concerns. My parents have traveled the country twice in the last 12 months. I accept that they are a married couple and sometimes want to travel without the rest of their family. However, I recently noticed that my mom bought two tickets to Europe for her and her dad as a birthday present. She paid them using the money she had saved for her family vacation.

I feel betrayed. I got the impression that I can’t take a vacation at this time, or wait for the pandemic turmoil to subside before traveling, but her mother is willing to spend money on vacation for her and her father. I was there.

My dad will be 50 years old, and I understand that it is a very special occasion. But after enrolling in a top college and getting two scholarships, I wonder why I didn’t get as much as dinner. Am I overreacting? If not, how do you need to deal with this? -I want a vacation in New York

Dear Hope: I agree that your achievements have been commendable for being accepted by your top college and winning two scholarships. (Actually, the outcome was a reward in itself.) What wasn’t recognized tells me that a lot must be happening for your people right now.

Family vacations are great and memorable, but so are milestone birthdays that are approaching your dad. Your mom should be allowed to ensure that it is “special”. If you feel itchy on your trip, or if you don’t have one yet, consider a part-time job. That way, you can spend your vacation with friends, students, and church groups. You are no longer a child, so you should talk to her mother about her feelings.

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Dear Boy: My adult son was furious at me, so he called me, shouted bad things, and threatened to separate me from his life. I have never been told that way. It was so traumatic that I was trembling after I hung up on him.

What made him so angry was that she didn’t thank his mother-in-law for the email she sent to her happy birthday. I received 30 birthday wishes by email that day, but I didn’t approve any of them. I would like to thank those who had a hard time calling and sending the actual card. I don’t think I behaved improperly, but there may be rules I slipped through. Your thoughts? -Unhappy birthday in Texas

Dear Misfortune: A polite way to deal with the wishes of a special occasion in an email is to approve them individually or do an email “blast” to thank everyone for remembering you. That is. It was unfortunate to have silenced the stone. But you weren’t asked for your son to get out of the worst, shout “bad things” and threaten to separate you from his life. Whether you receive it or not, you deserve an apology.

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