Our young kids aged 15 and 11 want to go, but the 17-year-old says they won’t go no matter what. We have proposed various vacations, but he says no to all.

He wants us to go without him, but we don’t trust him to stay home alone for a week. While we are leaving, there are no family or friends nearby to “babysitter” him. Also, going without him would defeat the purpose of his family vacation.

We don’t want him to have the power to shatter his vacation plans, but it’s still unattractive to spend a lot of money on a child who is always in a bad mood and can be in a bad mood. What do you think we should do?

number: I agree that leaving my son alone at home is out of the question. Because of his attitude, you should assume that your last enjoyable family vacation happened last summer. Please enjoy those memories.

Tell him, “Okay, son. We are surrounded by your bravery, so we are at home and enjoy a week of family unity.”

Maybe your pouch needs to be painted. If so, he is the man in the job. He plans to take his younger children on a day trip to an amusement park or a ball game. Invite your eldest son together and, if so, enjoy his presence. (July 2012)

Dear Amy: When I was a teenager, I was in the same situation as my adult sons, so I have a suggestion. Allow him to bring friends.

Teens need to be with their peers. Being with friends allows him to “fix” his friends and spend time with his family.

Our vacation was always intensified by the friends that our sons brought (we paid for). Not only did it give us the opportunity to enjoy ourselves and our children on vacation, but we also had the additional bonus of getting to know their friends better.

in the meantime: I received a lot of answers to this question. I love your suggestions. (August 2012)

Dear Amy: We waited for the oldest child to graduate from a two-year college program before going on a “last” family vacation. Not to mention gratitude, the last two years have been different in terms of maturity and fun dating!

Teens grow up, and if we give them the space they need to come around, they will be very fun people.

have been to: Teens shut their mouths and get sullen because they don’t know what else to do with the prospect of a final separation from their family. At least that’s how I interpret this behavior. Parents need to look back and gain perspective on their teenage behavior. (August 2012)

Dear Amy: “No vacation?” Certainly put a lot of pressure on her 17-year-old son to join them for the “last family trip.”

Your suggestion for a hilarious plan of other family activities was right, but omits the lecture “We are trapped in your bravery.”

The mom who wrote you is the mom who is creating this all-or-nothing scenario while holding her son accountable.

Mom: I understand your claim, but I wanted this teen to see his attitude affecting the whole family. (August 2012)

Dear Amy: I never allow brave teens to determine if the whole family can take a vacation.

My answer is, “We go, and it includes you. Limits. If this is hard to understand, you can kiss car keys, electronics, goodbye to social life.”

My husband and four children have just returned from a week’s vacation that was not approved by their 14-year-old daughter. guess what? We all had a great time.

Also, text messages and video games are restricted during vacation, and Facebook is prohibited.

No: Many responded to this letter by dragging a moody teenager during a family vacation. As you say, memories tend to be good.

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